Today the United States Supreme Court spoke.
They did not speak to us.
We have always known we are not criminals.
We are not mentally ill.
We are not broken.
We have always known that civil rights denied to a minority is immoral.
We have always known that the right to marry and all of its benefits is a fundamental human right.
Today the court spoke to the shrinking majority who believe in strict binary genders.
Today the court spoke to the narrow lane of Americans who are hell-bent to control social standards.
Today the court spoke directly to people who believe that civil rights only belong to those
who define a family as 1 man + 1 woman plus kids.
Today the court began to catch up to us.
Today the court began to see that humanity’s diversity includes more than standard issue WbW & MbM
With this partial and narrowly stated acceptance, we must be vigilant.
The disappointed and threatened will demand to be heard.
Those who feel their beliefs are at risk will confuse surrender with betrayal.
Those who are filled with fear will express it within their reach,
maybe in their neighborhood,
maybe they will drive to a queer zone,
maybe they will punish someone sitting at their family dinner table.
Today we must be clear that this is our family.
Look around today and see, this is our family.
Even if we can marry and have kids, we queers have learned to expand the definition of family: this is our family.
Today is a good day to ask ~ what is the reach of our family?
For every one of us here on the Old Courthouse steps, there are 10 who cannot be here.
They are at work, at school, unable to commute, or in hiding.
What of those in the 37 excluded states?
What of those in the African Union where being queer is a capital offense
What of those in Paris or Red Square, who show us that Pride is Political?
Today, as Californians in particular, we must ask what is the reach of our family?
Even when Marriage Equality is signed, sealed and delivered,
What of the queer teens raised in binary defined homes who live in hiding and fear?
What of school house peers who bully in line and online to assert righteousness?
What of those whose souls will not be denied, whose bodies are in transition?
What is the reach of our family?
Circle the wagons, we know who is at risk.
Keep our whole family from the escalating risk that is inevitable.
BECAUSE LEGISLATIVE & JUDICIAL EQUALITY IS ON THE WAY
Today we are most definitely on the way
We are on the way to equality
To get this far we chose to dismantle the binary restrictions in
the two most entrenched institutions in our society: military and marriage
Though they have begun transforming, they are certainly not done.
Each of us defines equality in a different way.
Some Californians may be elated today.
But make no mistake, Queers in most states feel exactly as we did Nov 5, 2008.
Those in most states need our vigilance and do not want us to proclaim victory.
What is victory?
What is it that we want?
It is not the redefinition of social constructs.
It is not marriage in all 50 states
It is not adoption and parental rights
It is not the end of immigration tearing apart families.
It is not EDNA
It is not full engagement in the military including family benefits
It is not the adoption of anti-bullying programs in all our schools
It is the right, the inalienable right to proudly and publicly demonstrate our humanity.
It is the right of
So that each of us can say out loud
I am whole
I am well
I am not a sinner
I am not broken
I am a human being
I am somebody
We are somebody.
This family has grown and like all families, it grows through pain.
Chances are many, if not most, of the people here today
would not have found one another before Nov 4, 2008
It was a terrible loss that forced this family to congregate.
Now, we must commit to two things:
keep expanding and
not lose one another now.